Choose to be happy

It is not the circumstances that bring happiness but the way we respond to them, and the response is a choice. If we are not happy and want to be, then we need to change the way we look at our circumstances. My grandmother always said, and I think it is from the Bible, "As a man thinks, so he is." Abraham Lincoln said something like, "A man is about as happy as he makes up his mind to be." Absolutely. Are our responses learned? Were negative responses modeled by adults in charge when were were growing up? If so, we can choose to ditch them and develop new thoughts and perspectives that are good! But if we don't want to be happy, if it feels better to maintain a woe is me personal philosophy, then OK. Accept that the misery is also a choice. But is being miserable a satisfactory way to live? Not usually. So change your thinking. Look at new angles and keep working at it until you have that happy view on life down pat!